rivercrow

Earlier this evening, I read this article on how to leave a forum. It started me thinking about the forums I have left and why I’ve left them. Usually, it’s just been a lack of sustained interest and I just drop away. Actually leaving is a rare thing for me.

I’m in the end stages of leaving a forum now. It’s been a slow, mindful retreat. I pulled back to only a few areas, said “No” to a number of situations and involvements, and have now reached a point of non-attachment.

It’s sufficient to break the tie. I’m leaving with no ill-will, like sloughing a skin. I have let a few people personally know where I am going, but said no formal goodbyes. Rather, I have said goodbyes–but that was while I was moving my heart into this blog.

It helps that I have a number of projects going on at the moment. I’m building blogs, feeding my blog, my professional life is interesting, and things are happening.

I look back over the weeks and realize how far removed I’ve become. Hard to believe that a place I visited so frequently has become so dispensable.

Good things came from the experience. Some good personal relationships grew out of the experience that will persist; the individuals themselves are important beyond the confines of the forum. I grew as a writer; I was challenged in ways I could not have foreseen. My professional life has benefited from the improved self-confidence I’ve gained as being an active and respected contributor. Being around a concentration of my MBTI and Enneagram Types proved the validity of these systems to me and strengthened my trust in myself.

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