rivercrow

I have a job starting in a few weeks. The position seems challenging and I feel comfortable about the work culture. The more I learn, the more I realize how important a good cultural fit is. A misfit is just too costly a mistake — expensive for both me and the company, tho I admit […]

(I’m stealing some of the following from some books I’ve read. If anyone cares to source the statements, help yourself–I can’t recall titles at the moment.)
Games are a common metaphor for negotiation–but it’s important that all the participants speak the language of game. Not long ago, women were not involved in team sports and therefore […]

Sometimes I am overwhelmed with melancholia, anticipating the loss of friends and loved ones.
Mortality I can deal with.
It’s my own stupidity that frustrates me most. I stumble along, make judgment errors, start worrying about abandonment.
I forget–forgiveness and grace exist. But I never count on either. They’re always unexpected.

If there’s one thing I wish I had, it’s a trust-worthiness indicator.
It would work globally. No matter where the other person is, it would tell me if that person could be trusted.
It would be discreet. Ideally, I could get the thing implanted so that it would be undetectable. I’m the only one who needs […]

The whole world knows this one, but it bears repeating.
Love is patient; love is kind
and envies no one.
Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude;
never selfish, not quick to take offense.
There is nothing love cannot face;
there is no limit to its faith,
its hope, and endurance.
In a word, there are three things
that last forever: faith, hope, […]

I hate introducing myself.
That’s my biggest gripe against social meetings, online and in person. I never know what to say. It’s easier just to get people to talk about themselves and chime in when there’s a lull.
Or, I know what I want to say, but I know it will take too long.
Hi, I’m in-between […]

Realizing your own mortality is a life-changing event. For a long time you may burble happily along, vaguely aware that there’s a finite end someplace then–WHAM–you collide with the reality of the thing.
How you respond to it depends on where you are with your life. I didn’t respond gracefully; I think I did a good […]

The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present.
- Barbara De Angelis
Although I’ve read sentiments like this before, this quote really startled me today. Anger and associated emotions have drained away from me the last few weeks, almost like a bloodletting of the […]